Healing is a process. Put simply it is about becoming whole and that of course is where things get mysterious and interesting. Because if I ask you whether or not you want healing it implies that there is some wound or some stuckness in your life.
And even deeper, whether or not you want to be whole, to be more than you allow yourself to be right now?
Well, do you?
If this is challenging to us it is because we generally don't know what our wound is and even if we feel less than healthy or if we feel less than joyful at present – we would rather not acknowledge that.
Mercifully we don't really need to know what our problem is for it to be solved or for us to realise that we don’t really have a problem.
We can heal quickly or we can remain stuck for decades, how strange!
Healing begins when healing is wanted.
Really I think it begins when we begin. We heal, we become more whole, more healthy as we live and breathe. Healing is not just the touch of a hand, the healing hand on your head, it is not just the vibration of a healing crystal, it is also the realisation that we are growing, growing in the dark, growing towards the light that we cannot see, just like the little bulb buried in the soil.
As months go by the bulb seems inert and even dead. Measured by external signs no progress is made, no flower, no beauty and no sense at all.
But a moment arrives, after which a slight movement is made and then as days go by, that seemingly hesitant movement becomes a direction and the tiny bulb, let's say, a crocus, reaches deeper into the soil and upwards towards the light.
It seems to have transformed from no growth to a movement which balances upwards and downwards equally.
And then it blooms.
The unseen roots get no mention now, we only bless and receive the flowers in the light and not the roots hidden in the dark.
But without the support and fertility in that dark there would be no beauty and no flower in the light.
We see the flower's beauty without being aware of the whole process, the waiting in the dark, in the winter. We want only the bloom, only the Spring.
And that one sided or narrow focus may be due to our wound, a wound is a restriction after all. If wounded we cannot move easily and maybe not even breathe easily.
Perhaps that is the most obvious sign that are wounded because growth in natural, unforced and easy.
Flowers bloom, birds sing, rain falls and all without any effort. But we struggle with our emotions; to not be angry or spiteful, to not show weakness and in fact for most of us to not show our love, our appreciation of the world of beauty in which we live.
Showing emotions might…well lead to something. It could show that we are human and have weaknesses and that, in our silly imaginings we could be mocked and exploited.
I get it, I've struggled too for long periods. Part of me does recognise and trust the process of life; I am after all a gardener.
And I practise meditation, which is a mix of waiting and watchfulness of the process of unfolding.
With all this I still struggle.
Maybe we should expect this long process and perhaps the process is only long because we resist it.
The Psychologist Carl Jung says that "There is no coming to consciousness without pain."
And this seems to be borne out by our experience, what he goes on to say that,
" People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious "
Accepting the darkness, a little at a time as it slowly deepens at dusk can ease us closer to trust and to wholeness.
As we wait patiently and ease into the darkness it seems to change and we find ourselves edging into the light.
The wound in us, the dark is, in truth part of the process and healing is a part of the process and a goal of it too.
We are told "Not to curse the darkness, but to light the candle", the cursing and the lighting are parts of what we go through and I believe that if we are aware of the whole process we can be more tolerant of our own wounds and imperfections and those of other people too.
Our healing can assist the healing of others. Ultimately all healing is self-healing but we all need and can give a healing hand or maybe that should be a healing hand from time to time.
If you would like to explore these issue more fully I have listed 3 books from my bookshelves that you might appreciate. They may be at your local bookshop and if not here are links of the books at Amazon.
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